Submitted by garath/dave (not verified) on 4 May, 2006 - 21:01.
Interesting blog, jak.
Just to add to it, it seems with a lots of my IMs, the ability to comunicate depends on where we first developed our relationship - it's rare for me to be able to communicate equaly well on IM, the phone and real life. A lot of my 'internert' buddies like you I communicate very well on IM and think that we adapted to it first and I'm most comfortable with it. With other people, generally people who I talk with a lot face to face, it is very difficult to talk on MSN etc because our conversations seem much more limited.
I don't use IM often now but used it voriciously (SP??) in the past. Maybe the reason is that I find talking on msn generally results in conversations about nothing and due to limited time - I don't see my friends IRL either too much.
I use smilies an awful lot and feel lost without them. On IM it's difficult for me to make a joke without using a smilie, it makes it much more clear to use a wink or tongue smilie to show that you aren't being too serious. The real life counterpart wouldn't be a wink as I don't wink much, but the wink symbolises cheekiness rather than being an exact and accurate response. The same with Lol, I don't laugh too much on the internet - it's less funy without the physical elements - but due to the conventions and the symbolic meaning of the smilies - eg the :) smilie is generally a sweet sentiment rather than an amused one - I say lol instead.
I roleplay with some people but only as an extension of a joke or as a err sexual thing when I was younger. ;)
I think IM is very limiting in some ways, in a face to face encounter a great number of emotions can be displayed and immediately apparent and this is only true to a much lesser degree in IM. I think it's difficult particularly with apologies or times when you try to be sincere, problem's we've had in the past would probably but little problem if face to face.
In general I like IM but use it with caution, and try to find idiosyncratic ways to express how I feel which are different to everyday life. It's certainly not perfect and very different from everyday life, but this adds an aspect to relationships rather than detracting. Where possible it seems best to be used in a balance with phone calls and face to face methods too otherwise it may be difficult to communicate in these methods, it has been for me. I can't IM or talk on the phone with sujun at all ;)
Interesting blog, jak.Just
Interesting blog, jak.
Just to add to it, it seems with a lots of my IMs, the ability to comunicate depends on where we first developed our relationship - it's rare for me to be able to communicate equaly well on IM, the phone and real life. A lot of my 'internert' buddies like you I communicate very well on IM and think that we adapted to it first and I'm most comfortable with it. With other people, generally people who I talk with a lot face to face, it is very difficult to talk on MSN etc because our conversations seem much more limited.
I don't use IM often now but used it voriciously (SP??) in the past. Maybe the reason is that I find talking on msn generally results in conversations about nothing and due to limited time - I don't see my friends IRL either too much.
I use smilies an awful lot and feel lost without them. On IM it's difficult for me to make a joke without using a smilie, it makes it much more clear to use a wink or tongue smilie to show that you aren't being too serious. The real life counterpart wouldn't be a wink as I don't wink much, but the wink symbolises cheekiness rather than being an exact and accurate response. The same with Lol, I don't laugh too much on the internet - it's less funy without the physical elements - but due to the conventions and the symbolic meaning of the smilies - eg the :) smilie is generally a sweet sentiment rather than an amused one - I say lol instead.
I roleplay with some people but only as an extension of a joke or as a err sexual thing when I was younger. ;)
I think IM is very limiting in some ways, in a face to face encounter a great number of emotions can be displayed and immediately apparent and this is only true to a much lesser degree in IM. I think it's difficult particularly with apologies or times when you try to be sincere, problem's we've had in the past would probably but little problem if face to face.
In general I like IM but use it with caution, and try to find idiosyncratic ways to express how I feel which are different to everyday life. It's certainly not perfect and very different from everyday life, but this adds an aspect to relationships rather than detracting. Where possible it seems best to be used in a balance with phone calls and face to face methods too otherwise it may be difficult to communicate in these methods, it has been for me. I can't IM or talk on the phone with sujun at all ;)